Sunday, November 16, 2014

First things first: What do you want? (What do you want to create?)

SAM contemplating the pristine snowy landscape. New-fallen snow is so clean uncluttered and serene!
Photo by Janet Bickle

Why do so many of us have trouble knowing what we want?  As children we are taught not to ask. If we’re never allowed to ask for what we want, we don’t learn how to create what we want in our lives. In his book, The Path of Least Resistance, Robert Fritz discusses how we’re taught to react or respond to situations in our lives rather than knowing and creating what we want. Simply put, you have to figure out what you want before you can set about creating it. 

In my first post, I figured out that I want to become an organized, productive person. The first clue about what I want was that I've spent so much time over the decades writing about getting organized and productive, and complaining to my friends about how disorganized and unproductive I am. Getting organized always seemed like an impossible goal, though it continued to be a goal. But, did I take it seriously enough to learn how or to do anything about it? It always seemed impossible because I grew up in a terminally disorganized household. Now, though, I’m learning that there are skills and mind-sets that will help me get there.

1.       Decide what you want (to create)
What’s important to you; what are your fundamental choices, or core values?
The Path of Least Resistance – Robert Fritz; Unstuff Your Life – Andrew Mellen; Improv Wisdom – Patricia Ryan;
2.       Turn Pro (a mind-set)
“It is one thing to study war and another to live the warrior’s life.” – Telamon of Arcadia, mercenary of the fifth century B.C.
The War of Art – Steven Pressfield;
3.       Build habits, even (especially) small habits
Think of dripping water that carves holes in granite!; Mini Habits – Stephen Guise;
4.       Recognize RESISTANCE
Those small words in the back of your mind that stop you from doing what you really want.
The War of Art – Steven Pressfield;
5.       Make quick decisions
Decide what to do and get on with it.
The Path of Least Resistance – Robert Fritz; One Year to an Organized Life – Regina Leeds;

So, what do I want to create? I want to create an organized and productive life. What do I mean by “an organized life?” To be organized means that I have only the number of things that actually serve me, no more, no less; it means to be able to find things when I want them; it means to have a clear work surface and area so I can actually work there; it means to schedule the time I need to do my work, not just mull it over in my mind; it means to schedule time for the important things in my life other than work (creating a tidy, company-ready house would be good, too!).

And, I want to create a productive life. As they define it over at Asian, Productivity is "consistently taking action on your goals."A productive life means actually spending the time I need to produce the work (fiber/mixed media arts, writing); it also means spending the time on nurturing relationships that are important to me.

Now that I've defined what I want, it’s time to figure out how to create this wonderful organized, productive life. Oh, and…

Finally, I've decided that I WANT IT TO BE EASY (and EASY may not be what you think)!

1 comment:

  1. Because your mindset has been a love/hate relationship with organization - I'm sorry to tell you that at first it won't be easy. And that may be why you've had trouble getting started. You can definitely retrain your brain but if you are a saver there is more going on inside than simply cleaning things out. I have a friend who collects everything -- she has boxes upon boxes that have moved from one house to the next without ever being opened. But she won't go through them for fear she might have to give something up. So I'm thinking that fear might be part of the block when it comes to 'giving up' stuff. Just some random thoughts - and I love following your journey.